What is 69 position?
The 69 position is a mutual oral sex position named after the fact that each partner is curved against the other, face to groyne, and they resemble the digits 6 and 9, if numbers were into that sort of thing.
As a result, it's the number that causes everyone to snicker and remark "lovely" whenever it appears.
To a specific type of person, the number 69 is renowned as the funniest number ever, and it is a love-it-or-hate-it situation. It is related to the Kamasutra 69 position!
And, to be honest, position 69 is a position that would look better on a sexual bucket list than in your own bed. It takes a special attitude and coordination to give what you hope is fantastic oral sex while also trying to notice your partner doing the same to you. It can also be embarrassing.
But it's also very intimate, and if you get it right, even if it's just for a second or two, the sense of giving and receiving at the same time may mix into an exquisite experience in which you and your partner feel next-level linked.
So, how can you go to the sublime?
The Sluggish 69
If 69 position isn't enough to make you orgasm (which is perfectly okay), use it as a relaxing, goal-free approach to share pleasure with your partner. 69 feels less theatrical and much easier to relax into when thought of as a warm-up activity before more focused stimulation with toys, hands, or penetration. Try lying down on your sides with your backs to each other. It might be more comfortable, and it can help with variances in height.
The number 68
By lying face up on top of your partner with knees bent, legs spread, and your butt on their chest, you can avoid multitasking and give yourself your complete attention. What makes this posture so great is that it draws attention to the perineum, a delicate area of skin between the genitals and the anus that is sometimes overlooked. We hear from a lot of folks who are completely enthralled when they are touched here.
69 The Teasing
By trading off, you may avoid the strange 69 zone, where you're simultaneously providing and receiving but not really doing either effectively. Torture your spouse by bringing them dangerously close to orgasm, then switching. Continue to turn off the lights, adding hands or toys as needed or desired.
The 69th Power
Play with power dynamics by allowing the spouse on top to control the situation. By forcing their groyne into the bottom partner's lips, the designated dominator straddles their partner, controlling what they get (a face fuck, if you will). If you want to make your BDSM play more comfortable, the bottom person can use a neck pillow or a sex wedge to raise their butt for easier access.
The 69 Supercharged
Increase the stimulation with toys, and 69 sex position becomes a lot more fascinating. Place a favourite vibrator against you and have your spouse press it against you. If you have a penis in your face, use a vibrating cock ring or a masturbation sleeve with your mouth. If you're dealing with a V, return the favour with their favourite toy. Allow the toys to do their job and marvel at the glory of machine-powered orgasms.
A few essential suggestions
This is one of those sex acts that, to be honest, looks better than it feels, mainly because it necessitates coordination and the ability to focus on making your partner feel good while also focusing on how good they make you feel, while ALSO possibly focusing on how randomly long their second toe is. That's not to suggest that simultaneous pleasure isn't possible or
enjoyable, but it's a significant struggle to make each other orgasm at the same time when so much is going on.
It's just that there's so much going on that it's easier when individuals are of comparable heights. It will be difficult to coordinate logistics if one spouse is 6'2" and the other is 5'2". If you're in a male-female relationship where height inequality is a problem, it's best if the guy is on top. However, you must be comfortable delivering a fairly deep, harsh blow job, which is what normally happens when the guy is on top.
If you want to be in charge, have your spouse lie down on their back while you climb on top of them and face their feet. Then do a full vertical blow job, also known as cunnilingus, which will most likely feel strange. Your partner's mouth should be able to reach your genitals. If you get fatigued, swap it around and allow your partner to take the lead, but keep in mind that you'll lose some control (and that peen can hit your gag reflex unexpectedly).
Toys can be added to the mix as well, such as a butt plug, vibrator, masturbation sleeve, or whatever else you like! It's a terrific way to mix things up, give your jaws a breather, and yet be able to talk nasty with each other.